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NURTURING SELF

(A Daily Exercise of Self-Respect)

"All of humanity's misery stems from the inability to sit still, be quiet,

and do nothing." - Pascal

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(Reading time approximately 5-15 minutes.)

Allow yourself a brief amount of private time, everyday, to sit, be quiet and nurture yourself.

Choose to care for yourself.

Choose to give to yourself positive attention

and be a friend to yourself.

DO NOTHING = NURTURING SELF...because in doing nothing it is then easier to discover the submerged depth of beauty that does exist inside you that needs and yearns to be acknowledged, felt, and nurtured.

Thus allowing your innate goodness and joy to bubble up naturally.

By feeding/nurturing ourselves, can we then feel our own innate goodness.

And, conversely, by feeling our own innate goodness, simply by being willing to,

do we then feed/nurture ourselves.

Your unique and essential innate goodness can never be taken away from you by anything

from either the outside or inside of you.

"I need do nothing"

and

I'm free to do anything with integrity!

I need get nothing

and

I'm free to get anything with integrity!

I need think nothing

and

I'm free to think anything with integrity!

"HO, I am full."

Like an empty chair receiving your body,

be willing to allow yourself to be receptive,

doing nothing.

"Be a human being, not a human doing."

Nurturing is also like the tails side of this coin.

Heads side being the opposite of Nurturing.

Forgive yourself (Give-for yourself kindness),

thus making the simple choice of being kind toward yourself.

(Example - "I'm doin' the best I can," and "Of course I feel the way I do!")

"To err is human,

to forgive is divine."

For those who find it difficult to feel divine concider...

To err is normal,

to forgive is natural.

Being kind and accepting of the reality of my ordinary imperfect humanness,

ironically can make it easier to experience the potential reality of my extraordinary perfect divinity.

Thus, making it possible for my humanness to embrace my sacredness.

Be willing to embrace self-acceptance

as opposed to self-improvement.

Entertain the idea that there is no lack and therefore nothing improve or prove.

Being that it is impossible for the mind to know everything,

momentarily be willing to let go of the need to know things, to figure things out.

Temporarily be comfortable with not knowing.

Not knowing = a far deeper kind of knowing.

Be willing to feel grateful that life ~

after all of its own good and bad ~

is ultimately friendly (from my own personal experience),

feeling worthy to participate in this friendliness.

Continue to feel grateful for the existence of...

Now - Myself

These ideas could go on, and on, and on...

Be willing to accept the idea that you have good reasons for how you authentically feel.

Be willing to accept yourself as you are right now.

Be willing to feel respect for yourself.

Be willing to feel that you belong, for...

this world would be incomplete without you.

Being that giving and receiving are actually interchangeable, equal, circular,

consider allowing receiving unconditional love within yourself FIRST,

THEN authentically giving unconditional love to others comes naturally.

Like a fountain receives water from a source FIRST,

THEN easily and naturally it is able to give it's beauty.

Be willing to momentarily let go of

rescuing others
fixing others problems
proving to others
controlling others
seeking approval from others

Be willing to nurture yourself by knowing that you ALWAYS

(in all times & in all places)

have a choice.

*Give a sigh of relief. *

After I spend time with these Nurturing thoughts,

I like to close my eyes and...

pray/affirm,

do (internally),

be active (in my mind and heart),

and give good thoughts to

1) others

2) myself.

For example, what I say internally is: (feel free to come up with your own)

"I see (name) glowing with the light of God...

while soaking in (name's) miraculous body

this glow of God is

permeating every atom

saturating every cell

dissolving all disease

relieving all pain.

While radiating this glow of God from within...

(name's) miraculous self

is more aware of God's wonderful presence.

Or I may say...

(Name's) innate goodness can never ever be taken away from (Name).

Or I may say...

Then, directly after I pray/affirm I...

meditate/nurture self,

do nothing (or do as little as possible, internally),

be inactive (in my mind and heart),

receive good thoughts from myself

be easily and simply watchful, alert, neutral, and aware of everything coming into my senses

from this present moment.

Listen.

Inspired by my wife Connie Cook

DEFINITIONS

Now - What is, within and without. From the level of a normal state of human consciousness, this extremely short present point in time as opposed to the long past or long future.

Or, now is non-time, existing from the level of a natural state of human consciousness. One long field of now...

Spherical time, not linear time.

Free time, not enslaved time.

Now also implies HERE: the space our physical body occupies.

Thus, both the now and here, is freedom of time and space.

Myself - Defined only by one's own self.

Beauty - That which cannot be defined and where description is preferable--- because when it is attempted to be defined it losses it's unique identity of beauty. Beauty inspires a feeling of unconditional love (free as opposed to conditional and sufficating), deep happiness, and peaceful awe. Being aware of beauty's indefinable nature, the Buddha once held up a flower and said nothing. This was known as the "Flower Sermon." Yielding to the wisdom of the flower, he let the flower speak for itself in it's own silent language.
Wonder - Something so beautiful and so inspiring, that one is happily content to simply not desire understanding it, letting it be what it is. Conversely, something so beautiful and inspiring that one is happily motivated to understand it and reflect its beauty in expressing it. Deep appreciation of beauty and what is. Wonder inspires a joyful feeling that there is always more to know and feel. (Example...The universe is so vast in both it's bigness and smallness!)
Love - That glowing feeling in the heart of you of connection to another, yourself, all life, all. The action of connection to an individual life. Freely accepting all individual life as it is. Thus, leaving one with the feeling of integration, not separation. The compassionate feeling that what is on the outside of you is on the inside of you as well. That which brings deep happiness.
Comfort - Fulfillment of physical and non-physical needs. Painlessness. Frictionlessness. Stresslessness. No resistance. Subjective balance. Also, relief from any painful imbalance by it's opposite. (v. to comfort) The action of nurturing and loving.
Respect - Valuing one's (self and all other individual life) innate unique quality.
Valuing/allowing all individual life as it is. Valuing all free will choice as it is, where applicable. Also, negative respect, is being deferential to a higher authority in a hierarchy.
Honor - Valuing one's (self and all other individual life) acquired unique quality. To esteem highly. A privileged feeling.
Freedom - The absence of, or immunity from, any external control, restraint, or pain, as well as the absence of oneself allowing that control internally. Not painfully bound by one's (self or others) habits/compulsions. The paradoxical situation of being one self in the presence of another/group, or two selves (i.e. you and them). Not co-dependence. but in-dependence ( i.e. dependence on oneself...flexibly). Not determined by anything beyond it's own nature or being and not allowing the existence of that determination. No limit on thought, feeling, or will. A right. Always having a choice. The ability and right to be oneself.
Awareness - Life. Consciousness. Light of consciousness within life. (Our sentient nature, i.e. self-awareness, is what makes human beings, and other life, distinct from non-sentient life.) Feeling and/or knowing the presence of something or someone with any of your five, or more, senses. Awareness is the activity of observing your thoughts/feelings. Being that the activity of observing cannot exist without the two ingredients of the observer and the observed (or you and this screen), awareness contains the three ingredients of the:

1) obserER

2) observED

3) observING

Therefore, awareness seems to be the non-physical activity of observING yet containing the physical observER and observED

and thus linking the physical with the non-physical into a complete and living dynamic.

Forgiveness - To give for others and for yourself unconditionally loving, non-judgmental thoughts. Choosing to see all individual life, including yourself, as beautiful, no matter what has/is happened/ing to you. (This can be, rightfully, extremely difficult for us humans to do. Thus the phrase "would you rather be right or happy" seems to be appropriate. Forgiveness, therefore, encompasses happiness, not rightness.) Forgiveness is also a helpful tool of time that washes any mental and/or emotional past and/or future "dirt," leaving only a clean, now moment. In other words, forgiveness brings you into the present moment.

Peace - Feeling certain of who you are.

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